you explicitly tied my right to exist in my own country to me confirming to nativist norms. That is a majorly fucked up thing to say.

You know what is fucked up? Believing yourself too good to confirm to "nativist norms". What the hell is even that? What do you even mean with your "own country" if you are not willing to conform to their way of life?

Being a citizen somewhere does not just mean living there. It means following the local customs and adhering to them.

This “everyone lives in a society” stuff is just weak mealy mouthed equivocation.

I mean, "every one lives in a society" is pretty clear cut. I seriously don't get what's hard about respecting the culture you want to live in.