I was in a very troubled relationship for 7 years before I got with my now gf. It was violent, nasty, abusive and we both went through a hell. We broke up and I spent a year alone before I got into my current relationship. At times I thought my world ended but eventually I started feeling as if my new life was just starting. I am still figuring things out about myself and my previous relationship. It takes a lot of time to heal and to move on. But eventually you will. My current relationship is a million times better. It helps me heal. It gives me new perspectives on life.

It's okay to be confused or feel bad from time to time. It's part of the process. Be alone if you need to. Be happy with your current partner. You went through a lot and you can take all the time you need to recover and move on.