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Check on your male friends to see if they need help
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this post was submitted on 14 Nov 2023
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Well…I’m really sorry that you were never emotionally supported by your social circles because of your gender. That truly is unfair.
why? it is fair, it's how it's been for thousands if not millions of years. it's just who we are.
No it’s not. Biologically speaking there is no difference between male and female brains that justifies having half the human population’s emotional needs neglected. It’s all down to arbitrary social rules and barriers about male stoicism that do not apply to modern day society.
If you want to tough it out, feel free to, but only because you personally chose to do it. Not because “That’s how it has always been” or because you’ll be ridiculed by others. All men should be able to choose what emotions they show, when to show them, and how to show them without fearing ridicule.
so if i tell you for example that my life sucks and i've lost everything and fucked up every chance that i was given by some miraculous faith you would care like there's not enough shit going on in your own life? we, men, are who we are because everyone got their own problems and their own shit going on in their own lives, so it's just a waste of time, energy and sanity to care about other men's wellbeing if you don't have a real bond with them. if i start to care about every guy on the internet and care about their problems i will just kill myself eventually, and i don't expect a different treatment to myself either. it is what it is.
I mean I would care as much as I can for an internet stranger.
I never said anything about caring about every man ever, but you don’t seem to realize that you don’t even care about the men in your life if you apply the same “Tough it out then kill yourself” attitude to them as you’re espousing right now.
And do you think women don’t have equally heavy issues going on in their lives? Do you think no woman out there has ever lost everything and fucked up every chance they get? But societally speaking it’s more acceptable to get help and talk about their fuck ups without judgement.
I’m clearly not going to change your mind, but like…I hope you can talk to someone about the stuff you’re dealing with, or at least give yourself some grace and forgiveness. Existence is really hard already.
I care and I sincerely hope that your life doesn't suck. Also, I personally don't find it to be a waste of time to care about anyone's well being or problems, so if you need to unload anything, I'll listen.
"so if i tell you for example that my life sucks and i’ve lost everything and fucked up every chance that i was given"
Have you considered that your depression might be influencing your perspective on this?
That shit ain't fair mate, don't gaslight yourself