Good point about it being self focused.

Think how you describe optimistic nihilism is how I try to live mostly. I don't have a problem saying sorry like many people seem to have, and I am happy to admit when I was wrong. Especially with kids I think that's important. My father never said sorry for anything.

I've been raised Christian, and one core belief of it is to treat others like you want to be treated. I don't like many other things about Christianity though, but that's the one thing I'm sticking with.