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New to America USA, how do you socialize and meet new people? (lemmy.world)

submitted 11 months ago by sparky_gnome@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I recently moved to the USA, from the middle east. My English is pretty good, and I don't have a lot of trouble communicating with people at work or in stores. I also don't know anyone here at all, outside of work. All my family is still back in Gaza, and I've been here over a year now, and still feel cut off from American people and culture.

How do you make friends and socialize here? How do I learn more about America and Americans culture? I know a bit about history, but not much about anything else.
I don't drink or go to bars, for religious reasons. I have joined a couple of clubs based on hobbies, but still feel disconnected. I'm not sure how you socialize or meet new people here, in my family everyone came around your house all the times of the day, and here it seems like neighbors just stick to themselves. I don't want to bug people or anoy them if that is not the customs here.

Also, what are your favorite parts of American culture and history? So far I have enjoyed Nascar and monster trucks very much, and studying mathematics.

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[-] Unsustainable@lemmy.today 29 points 11 months ago

If you figure it out, let us know. My kids keep asking me the same thing. I dont know how to do that now because things have changed so much since I was young and meeting people.

[-] sparky_gnome@lemmy.world 11 points 11 months ago

It is very sad for me too see this. America was always held up as an example to me, as a giant melting pot of different cultures and classes, where women and queer and minority people and everyone could be friends alongside everyone. I don't know what changed , or if that was just a dream. It seems like people just stick with the people and cultures they know and grew up with here, for the most part. Still much better rights for me than in Gaza, maybe it just " grass is perfect on the other side of fence, until you get there." kind of thing.

[-] plzExplainNdetail@slrpnk.net 10 points 11 months ago

There has been a decline in third places. There was a decline before the pandemic but the pandemic made it worse. Here's an article about the decline in America specifically and the newer ways people are trying to connect. It won't help you make more friends, but will help get perspective of one of the reasons things have changed.

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