I think we're on the same page being turned off by the anti-civ representatives of anarchist thought. Anarchism didn't start on Usenet -- it represents a much older, deeper, and inclusive tradition than some of its modern proponents give it credit for.

Anti-civ is so obsessed with authority over Anarchism's boundaries because Anarchism historically has defined itself as an alternative form of organizing civilization, and Anarchism's enemies were the ones claiming it was the enemy of civilization. I will admit though, the story of a person, faced with the horrors of capitalist civilization and capitalism's propaganda of Anarchism, choosing the propaganda version of Anarchism, is anarchist as fuck. Kind of like Winston Smith embracing The Theory and Practice of Oligarchical Collectivism in George Orwell's 1984.

You might find more affinity with the police abolition movement. They're not focused so much on gatekeeping Anarchism as achieving a distinctly anarchist goal. In practice they are repealing unjust laws, eliminating unequal and racist enforcement of those laws, and reforming the job of police until it no longer qualifies as a capitalist enforcer class. Instead they are replaced by mental health professionals, de-escalation specialists, mobile notary publics, crisis investigators, and many other specialties that perform all of the social functions of police without the culture of violence and perverse incentives for incarceration.