How do you deal with being "sure of yourself"? (lemmy.world)

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When questioning your intentions as arrogant, entitled, immature vs confident, moral right, correctness. Or even questioning if the Duning Kruger effect is at play.

What process do you incorporate to back-up your self-judgement or in identifying your decisions/choices are in-fact "correct" in online discussions and/or personal life with friends/family.

How do you remove "self-doubt"?

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[-] TheInsane42@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I'm perfect, it's impossible for me to be wrong. ;) I can get additional facts and have a need to change my point of view, which is called learning.

At least at my house I got told loads of times that nature gave me a brain, so I should use it. So I'm always right... with the knowledge I have at that time. I'm never proven wrong, just that I lack knowledge. ;) (And from time to time I learn loads)

[-] TheGreenGolem@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

Similar to this: I never question my past decisions. They were most definitely correct with the information I had at that point in time.
I can learn additional facts about that thing, but it's pointless to question myself about my past decision because back then I didn't have all those info I have today.
So my decision could be different today, but it was most definitely correct back then.
Therefore no self doubt, or just very rarely.

[-] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

You can definitely make decisions that you later feel were wrong, even taking into account the limited information you had

[-] TheGreenGolem@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Definitely. But when I feel that way, I remind myself that based on those information I had to have the best decision and stop questioning myself.

It mostly works. Fortunately very rarely it doesn't.

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