How do you deal with being "sure of yourself"? (lemmy.world)

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When questioning your intentions as arrogant, entitled, immature vs confident, moral right, correctness. Or even questioning if the Duning Kruger effect is at play.

What process do you incorporate to back-up your self-judgement or in identifying your decisions/choices are in-fact "correct" in online discussions and/or personal life with friends/family.

How do you remove "self-doubt"?

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[-] audrbox 3 points 1 year ago

I think in this context it's important to be specific about the type of self-doubt you're experiencing. Are you unsure about something specific you're stating? A decision you're making? A belief you have? A pattern of behavior you exhibit? Yourself/your life in general (literally, "unsure of yourself")? These are all separate things imo and warrant different levels of healthy doubt. Like, be open to being wrong about a fact, and be mindful of your behavior / willing to change it if it's hurting others, but no need to spend energy constantly doubting who you are or how you're living your life. Whenever I experience self-doubt, I try to first ask myself which of these categories it belongs to, and based on that I decide how I want to respond to it.

I hope this makes sense, it got rambly lol

[-] pexavc@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It definitely makes sense. and that's what makes it more complicated. because it is also hard to relay context to get second opinions. sometimes what's left is personal reflection, but practicing how to remove self-bias and not re-adjusting past memories to fit an argument is very difficult.

Thank you for listing those categories, it's nice seeing them out in print to properly remember.

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