I think much of this stuff is still a little bit broken. I barely began a 3rd run through after finishing twice, and those two other times I only got easy, random sex with Lae'zel for my masculinity and Wyll because... IDK. I barely even talked to that dude and suddenly I catch him dancing and he wants to bang.

The people I want to fuck don't give me the time of day, and their approval was maxed out. In the carnival, there's a thing that you can use to find out how close a companion feels about you. I took gale and he was apparently down to clown, but I never actually got any options that led to an encounter.

Plus, between the first two runs, what scenes played and when were totally different. Even without changing much about how I chose things or the order I did them, even minor things like when Gale decides to eat a magic item or when Lae'zel and Shadowhart would argue happened seemingly at random.

At this point, I believe both sides of the horniess argument are true. Some people got stonewalled, others got the pansexual harem.