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What it something a parent did that damaged your relationship with them forever with no recovery. (lemmy.world)

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To be succinct and private.. My incubator worked me for weeks to build rapport and trust with me in my younger days, to get me to tell her a something that she would ultimately, and immediately use and weaponize against me and others.

This wasnt the first time I tried to have a relationship with her, but it did finally open my eyes and become the last. In the many many decades since, I've not so much as acknowledge her existence when crossing paths.

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[-] Seimhe@lemmy.world 25 points 1 day ago

I assume that was absolutely calculated for maximum pain. I’m so sorry.

[-] snoons@lemmy.ca 14 points 1 day ago

Thanks. It really fucked me up for a long time. ;-;

[-] Seimhe@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

I know the feeling. I was lucky that my first therapist was solid as a rock and spotted things I wasn’t even aware of. But working through it was damn tough.

You deserve a good life now and I hope you get it.

[-] snoons@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

[-] Malyca@lemmy.zip 7 points 1 day ago

Being a parent myself now I still can't understand how you can intentionally inflict pain on your own children. I've been trying to understand my whole life.

[-] Seimhe@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

I think the part of their humanity that feels empathy, bonds, compassion and so on are completely absent in some people. But more than that, not only are they incapable of feeling or reciprocating love and empathy, they also have a sadistic appetite for other people’s suffering and little else can satiate them.

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