I hope you are informed that adhd is from trauma . I can say, that my adhd got pretty under control after years of healing. Many things are just gone and when anxiety comes I know that for me it's sign of : i forgot to take supplements / I have wrote down things that helps me/ I speak to myself.
When it's really bad- I let myself cry and pity myself. after all , went through serious traumatic events since early age, and I understood, that it doesn't matter who is beside me, nobody else can give me the companion as I can give to myself.
I started with Sedona method, later regression, Tony Robbins and many other popular speakers. Now I am in way of understanding, that it's patriarchy system that brought humanity to this level of depression and chaos. So, I create MY small world beautiful. Trying to keep my place clean, listening music, doing crafts. Just trying to do as much things that brings me pleasure. Rest of the world can f*%$@! Them selfs🤣😅 I try to be useful for people who care about me,but- the most important lessons I learned- to take a good care for my needs first. Then I can be good for others. I hug you, you are not alone. Bow go and do something nice for yourself.