Have you ever experienced sexual anhedonia? (lemmy.world)

submitted 5 days ago by MrOtingocni@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I just did. It sucked. For the first time in my life I ejaculated without an orgasm. Not a little one or a lousy one. Like, not one- at all. Nothing.

In fact, I am pretty mad about it right now. It feels like jonesing for a candy bar, putting your cash in the vending machine and it just takes your money. WTF?? Now you're still hungry, super irritated, and don't have another dollar.

I pray this is just a one time thing. Please, universe, don't take away ol trusty.

Has anyone else experienced this??

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[-] dingus@lemmy.world 2 points 4 days ago

I've never had the ability to feel sexual pleasure, unfortunately. Was a confusing time growing up. It also sometimes makes me really feel like I'm missing out. When all media revolves around sex and you can't even feel pleasure from masturbation, it feels like you're missing something from the core human experience. Sometimes it has made me feel like a different species.

I guess at least for me, I "don't know what I'm missing" because I've never experienced it. I'm sorry that you know what it feels like so that it's more painful when you can't anymore.

Has anything changed in your life recently?

[-] MrOtingocni@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago

Fascinating. Do you have sexual urges?

As for me, a lot of changes. Age being a big culprit for a lot of them. Since I posted last it hasn't happened again. I've just chalked it up to being tired, stressed, and trying to make something happen my mind wasn't really into at the moment.

[-] dingus@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I would say very very rarely and also fleeting. They don't occur on their own. But very rarely when I used to see a sex scene in a TV show or movie I would feel something for some limited moments. If I didn't have visual stimulation from these, they wouldn't occur on their own.

Glad what you described has not become a pattern for you so far!

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