Well to follow up I decided that this could potentially be more of a me problem than a fedora one. And actually...it was a KDE problem. I decided to switch to a basic WM, DWM, on it and low and behold all my problems just vanished. no crashing, switching to a TTY suddenly started working, audio and video was fine, no kick backs to the login screen. hell even something that SHOULD be unrelated as DNF suddenly improved.

So I'm not sure if I just got a wonky KDE install or an update went wrong with it but I'm more than happy to ditch KDE to keep using Fedora. I'd reinstall with a different spin but honestly at this point I spent a week or so setting this up i'll just keep using the KDE version without the KDE. I'd like to switch the DM to something other than Plasma Login Manager but at this point I'm not sure if that's a can of worms I should attempt to open.

So a question would be, is it a good idea to keep using Fedora KDE without using KDE? I'd just hate to update a system for something that I'm not going to use. Or would I just be better off reinstalling Fedora with a basic spin or a WM focused one.