If you don't fit then it must be your fault. Never the flawed systems problem. Integration and to some extent inclusion as the successor is about making micromanaging the ND people (or otherwise non norm) so they don't disturb the old way too much and rarely about changing concepts to actually open the situations up to all people.

Of course that takes more energy, time, willingness and most of all competence from the people in charge but into the long run it is worth it from a purely energy spent aspect. Not to speak of the non traumatic (or less) experiences ND have in education and public life in general.

Speaking as a Perviously early childhood education kindergarten teacher and a slightly of norm ND person.

Edit: it is common knowledge and practice in less formalized educational settings to use the enthusiasm and feed that interest in that moments and give it all the attention and "brain food" that you can spare. (There isn't always time to do that and you of course have to realize that the moment has arrived) but if you do... It is so worth it. And sneaky sneaky , you can use the enthusiasm for one topic that goes into depth to introduce other topics that might be hard for the person. Like cars turning in to a conversation about why they don't swim in water. Going further into why boats swim at all and you are now at physics.

That tactic does work ESPECIALLY well with ND people. It baffles me why people don't use it all the time.