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I think perhaps my opinions have shifted to fit in with my sisters and mother. They say things like that they hate all men, and say "it's not personal" to my dad and brother-in-law.
I appologise for being sexist. I shall attempt to course-correct.
Thanks for listening and owning up. I know it's hard to break a habit when casual sexism becomes your norm.
I honestly have a tendency to avoid taking responsibility and acknowledging when I'm wrong, but I'm trying to do better. Feel free to correct/confront me in the future.
I appreciate it. As someone who fought some hard rejection sensitivity issues, it feels way better to own up than to double down when I know I'm wrong.
Oh. I looked it up, and that sounds like me. I wonder if it's connected to my social anxiety.
Also, yeah, owning up does feel better than digging my heels in.
I learned it's part of ADHD, which I have. Naming it has helped me acknowledge when it's happening. Since anxiety goes hand in hand with conditions like ADHD, it might be related.
I feel like I'm an egg, but for ADHD.
So many signs, but I won't say I have it unless I'm diagnosed.
Depending on where you live a diagnosis can be very hard to get but worth it to start working toward sooner than later (fucking impossible with ADHD, I know.) You learn a lot along the way even if you don't end up having it.
The book Scattered Minds by Gabor Maté started my journey.
I don't particularly want to be diagnosed with anything. I'm definitely autistic, though, but I'm not diagnosed.
Permission to DM?
Sure thing.
Thanks :3
So you know the rules. You know your posting here is against the rules. And you decided to post here anyway to whine about the rules and about how your posting here is against them, daring us, in effect, to delete your post.
And somehow this makes you a good person.
You then proceed to make your masculine self the main character in a women's group, whining about your "genital mutilation".
And somehow this makes you a good person and those who want to have a space to themselves bad.
Yes, you're very obviously an "ally".
You utter fucking berk.
You sound very unhappy about being a man. You don't have to be one if you don't want to. I didn't want to, and so now I'm not.
!feminism@lemmy.world is rather active and we can make it more so if you truly want to discuss these types of subjects with all genders. Maybe someone else has a better community suggestion.
None of the community members here told you those things or said you were mansplaining. Please do not paint us all with the same brush.
Please respect that women and femme and non-binary people want a space to discuss with each other in a safe and supportive community.
Please, I’m begging you, read the comment sections of several posts here. You’ll be able to see how polite and respectful we are to men who accidentally post. We don’t extend warm reminders to men who leave sexist or dismissive or otherwise rude comments.
I’d rather you look for yourself than make assumptions and comment based on those assumptions.
I mean, you are repeatedly breaking the rules. That is disrespectful. You could have sent me a DM instead of commenting further.
As you can see if you look around at the other comments, men who politely leave (or do not have a previous reputation of being jerks to us) are not shouted at but rather acknowledged as allies for respecting the rules.
At this point I’m not so sure you’re willing to change your mind about us. It would be best for you to go now.
You're literally arguing with no one.