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A Boring Dystopia
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Well yeah, you're not it
Why do peacocks have such ridiculously inefficient feathers? Bird tail feathers can be as little as 1 inch long.
If someone expects me to pay a massive amount of money on a first date, that woild be a dealbreaker for me. Why should I reinforce any traditional gender roles in a crumbling capitalistic society
Different people exist
I know, but it seems short sighted to me to accept only a single possibility for dating which involves spending a lot of money
Straight up I went on a drinks to check how we vibe date last week, super simple, 5 beers total, two orders of wings as apps(so 12 wings), $80 before tipping $20. Not to mention the haircut I could’ve put off had I not had a date which was $60, and the gas I used getting there $5. Even if I tipped my personal minimum for a server at 20% that’s over $100. I don’t mind paying for a first date because it’s every woman is potentially putting their life on the line by meeting a man they don’t know alone for however long it lasts, but I used to could plan 2-3 first dates over a week, spend less, and get more food and drink.
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Bingo. It's the ones stuck in the gender and conformity roles getting plucked the hardest.
Nuts to that.
No, I'm not it but I am a representative of what the successful gambit can result in.
You represent men looking to find a steadfast friend that can become a partner for your life, yes?
The "game" as it is being played is screwing you. (if I am correct about what I'm reading that others in this thread have written) What you don't see, is that you have time on your side in a way that women do not.
(Truthfully, most men get so much tastier as they head towards 40.. you'll find out in time..)
Some golddigger insists on you dropping hundreds of dollars for a date? No. Refuse that. Any relationship with a woman like that won't last anyhow.
Don't waste your time or mental energy.
These are the EXACT women that will end up desperate cougars panicking as their biological clocks and looks tick down. You don't want the women that peaked in high school. Hig maintenance, high bullshit, high drama. Nuts to that. It's not a game, it's a lifelong partnership you are looking for. You will end up a plucked (henpecked) bird if you don't refuse to play it..
I thank my own rank stubbornness that the whole web2.0 social media horseshit had passed me by. No insta, fb, tiktok, threads, twatter.. so I've missed most of that poison (not that I'd do much more than make fun of it..) and have missed the toxicity that it spews.
Save your money and energy for someone that will step up to being your partner in life (and a bit of fun crime).
No plucked birds, thankyouverymuch.
I'm married to a woman I fell for when we were 13 in the 90s. Every expensive date I've ever been on has been for my benefit too.
Other people have different priorities and are made happy or secure by different things. As long as it's all consensual and not harmful, horses for courses. It's not that deep