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There are individuals who go into it thinking the therapist is there to 100% solve their problems, without any work from themselves. It’s a tail of the bell curve thing, but it does exist. Inpatient mental health, the temporary version, same thing.
. Here’s your homework. Response: I’m not here to do homework. (Actual quote).
. What do you think is your biggest struggle? That you people are supposed to fix this [struggle] and you never fucking do. (Actual quote).
. Bring up working on the problem. I’m not being paid to do the work, you are. (Actual quote).
. Like that. So, I image for those rare individuals, this is what therapy feels like.
I really appreciated that the therapists I interviewed all straight up said that I wasn't going to get anywhere with them if I didn't put in the work. I'd be lying if I didn't say I have a similar knee-jerk reaction, but I actually talked to them and they explained it and I just kinda delt with the PDA that came along with it.
Therapy can be really good if you make sure your therapist meshes with you and you're willing to put in the work on yourself if you plan on getting anything out of it.
Therapists are grifters. Imagine if real doctors said "only you can cure your own cancer". If they don't solve health issues then what are they for? "So what is your biggest struggle? Cancer? And why do you think that is? That'll be 70€, see you next week."
Cancer is not always something under your control. Your behavior, mostly, is your own, barring organic issues or not being of sound mind. Your choices, mostly, are your own.
Coping skills can be learned. But just as a teacher can’t learn the material and create your own competency with that material, through practice, a therapist can’t cure you.
Teacher is probably the closest analogy for a therapist.