rant incoming:

oh come on 4:1 consistently on an almost global scale is way too far to say that all of these women's attempts are sincere, 4:1 is batshit. it's the same as when someone says 'ive attempted ten times', cause no they didnt, if they did genuinely theyd certainly be dead. theyre not 'cries for help', theyre more like them getting internal validation for their feelings. garbaj on youtube made a great video about the romantising of alcholism but it applies here too. i know what i said is a tough pill to swallow but thats the cold truth. im not saying women en masse arent depressed or that theyre doing it for attention, i am saying far less of them are sincerely suicidal and want internal validation of their depression. same shit with sh, it becomes a contest of who can hurt themselves the most as you dont feel your pain is legitmate. people also do this wjth the whole 'i only got 4 hours sleep' 'i only got 2 shut up' 'my life is harder, you had it easy' 'i drink 4 beers a day' 'yeah wrll i drink a bottle of vodka'. people may or may not say this stuff out loud but people definitely fucking feel it deep down and start hurting themselves to feel like their emotions are justified. people need to get that someone having it 'worse' or 'better' means jackshit to your feelings, the whole 'be grateful' for what you have cause 'a kid in africa...' narrative is such a fucking dogshit way of thinking and leads to this shit by undermining and delegitmising feelings. if youre unhappy, you dont need to prove it. just cause someone needs alcohol to cope doesnt mean their circumstances are worse / feelings are more valid (those two things do not directly impact one another, dont think i mean that). even if their feelings were 'more valid' somehow, why the fuck does that matter to yours. this isnt some sucide competition, your depression is independent of theirs, they have no relationship.