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If you're confident you did nothing to deserve that anger, why worry about some stranger having a bad day? Even more so: why let that ruin your evening?
I know plenty people who don't like me and that's fine. At least, I'm fine with it.
because it makes me think that I look especially pathetic, stupid, or ugly since he chose me as a target
You are none of those things.
You were just in the wrong place at the wrong time and some crabby git unloaded on you.
You are fine, but he was miserable then and is likely miserable now, and will be miserable in the future..
While you will be awesome, happy and have a good day, and good friends, today and all your tomorrows.
Get it? Got it? Good. :)
🥺 thank you. still, I've never seen anyone be rude to good-looking people
I'm going to wager you are younger than 30 and look absolutely fine.
Sounds really, like that guy was just miserable.
Never let crabby old assholes make you question yourself, your looks, or pull you down in any way. Esp. not when you have done nothing wrong.
You are beautiful, and in 40 years you will look back at yourself in photos and what you see - it will be breathtaking when you realize just how gorgeous you were in 2026.
(Trust me on this...)
thank you very much 😳🌸
If it makes you feel better I'm confrontational to anyone I see bullying others, regardless of how handsome/beautiful they are 😂, these proverbial "hands" don't discriminate (I don't hit anyone I will cut you with words though)
I understand that but my question remain: do you really think you need to worry about what a random person can think about you? There are 8 billions plus people to worry about, then.And if you think you should, have try to understand why?
I know a few people, I could name them, that would like to slap me in the face (because I dare live a different life) and I have little doubt that many perfect strangers would also not like me because of that live. I know many others would not like like me because they think I'm too bald, or too bearded, too tall or too thick maybe. Or because I don't talk enough, or too much. Or because don't like bananas. Because I don't have a TV at home, no Netflix, and so on.
There are as many reasons to not like me (or hate me) as there people willing to waste their time finding reasons to not like me. And like I said, I'm fine with them not liking me, why should I not be? But I will not waste a second of my own precious time worrying about their opinion. They're strangers.
There is this thing called 'Stoicism', an old Roman philosophy that could be grossly summarized like this: it's a waste of one's energy to worry about things one can't change. It happens one can't change other people's opinion.
If you looked like anything, you probably only looked like someone who wouldn't stand up for yourself or berate him right back. If you are a woman, you can claim some space by standing straight, shoulders back, and channeling some inner Karen energy.
Not acknowledging it is the best way to go. People will only think about what a dick the bus driver was, and likely will think little to nothing about you. If you fight back, people will be pissed for holding them up longer, not think more of you