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This doesn’t surprise me.
I got a job as a chef at a queer piano bar a few years back. Up until that point I had kind of put gay people on a pedestal…like…I thought all the adversity made them innately virtuous.
But while working there I had the stupidest revelation I’ve ever had: Queer people are, in fact, exactly like other people. What I mean by that is my big eureka was that some gay people that are terrible people, some are great people, and every shade in between. Some of the most openly transphobic people I’ve met, for example, are from the gay community.
This person is a family friend who I've, unfortunately, heard talk about his life. His family is incredibly toxic and he just normalized it. About two years ago, I heard him ranting about how Metrosexuals ruined his gaydar and I told him I hadn't heard anyone use that word in over ten years. He also hates lesbians, but trans people haven't come up. I doubt he cares for them.
Oh yeah…in my experience gay men can be very mean to lesbians. I had a drag king dishwasher who was continuously sexually harassed by staff and customers…they said vile things to her on the daily. Some refused to call her by her “stage” name…despite having no problem with drag queens.