Is it possible for us with ADHD to date an avoidant? (lemmy.world)

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My natural instincts seem like all the things you need to avoid with an avoidant partner like overwhelming intensity of feelings, going all in, oversharing, excitement, showing raw feelings etc. I was wondering if it's even sustainable.

In case it's not a run while you can scenario, I would appreciate any advice for an early talking stage with an avoidant and later stages if it goes well

Thanks!!

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[-] Tehdastehdas@piefed.social 1 points 4 days ago

Disambiguation might be useful:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_in_adults#Styles

Adults are described as having four attachment styles:

Secure
Anxious preoccupied
Dismissive avoidant
Fearful avoidant

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality_disorder

... excessive social anxiety and inhibition, fear of intimacy (despite an intense desire for it), severe feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, and an overreliance on avoidance of feared stimuli (e.g., self-imposed social isolation) as a maladaptive coping method.

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