I don't know if it's just my neurodivergencies speaking, but that's wayy too much. No way I'd ever do that, nor expect someone to do that for me. Basic things such as clean sheets and cleaning yourself? Sure. Dusting shelves, shampooing carpets, making sure everything is perfectly order, and other less important things like that? No I find that excessive and exhausting (although I don't like or have carpets in the first place). If someone comes over to visit they better be satisfied with a dryer rack full of clean clothes

But I'm definitively someone that does not care about the dance, as you call it. It's too exhausting. And as we're all bogged down by too much work, mental health issues, and/or neurodivergencies and disabilities.. what purpose does it serve? All it ends up doing is make us more isolated because we feel like we have to present ourselves as "perfect" for other people. If we can't actually feel comfortable in a social situation with someone and actually relax and reduce our stress.. something has gone wrong.

Like yes, don't have moldy food in the counter, but some dirty dishes in the sink are fine, you know?

But again, maybe it's because I'm more entrenched in neurodivergent/disability culture. I don't hold this kinda stuff against people, and I hope they don't hold it against me back. I know how hard it can be. I think it's much nicer when we can accept, and enjoy time with, imperfect humans, than always expect and demand perfect humans. Especially when none of us are perfect in reality.