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Lemmings who made it out of incel-dom, what advice would you have to your previous self? (poptalk.scrubbles.tech)

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I made a similar post a couple of years ago, but I think it's time again after seeing a few nice-guy/incel posts here. So, guys who have made it to the other side, what would you say to your previous self? I'll leave my own personal answer in a comment below.

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[-] BodePlotHole@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

This right here. Exact same thing for me.

[-] anon6789@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Your first line of how it all seems stupidly obvious now is so true. But that's the thing about being self-centered, that you can't get any other perspective on it.

I'm glad you were able to get out of that cycle!

[-] BodePlotHole@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

It's still there. If my little ego gets bumped too hard, or someone isn't having any of my shit on an off day my knee-jerk reaction is to go right back to that place. But I try to keep my poop in a group, most of the time.

[-] anon6789@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Poop in a group is good 😄

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