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For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

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[-] astreus@lemmy.ml 38 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Ooo something for me!

I am FORMERLY uncircumcised. I have a skin condition which led to phymosis a few years back forcing me to have a medical circumcision this year.

Uncut is superior in every way. Sex is better, it's more comfortable when exercising, it's generally less of a nuisance. And in Europe, I never had an ick reaction.

If I didn't medically need it I wouldn't have done it. That said, it's better than phymosis, I do last longer in bed, and my partner says it's actually a really nice oral experience now.

Remember: most countries don't have a preference for circumcision, and a lot of people outside of America that are circumcised have it done due to medical issues, not moral or religious reasons.

[-] 46_and_2@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

As someone with similar experience - circumcision due to worsening phymosis as adult - and also in Europe - I feel great right now, felt good before circumcision too (with the exception of the phymosis moment). It's a bit different as a feel (and maybe I last longer now, or self-control got better with years, who knows) but honestly in my case I probably even prefer how it is now, and cleaning up your bits is easier while circumsized.

[-] princessnorah 3 points 1 week ago

I'm interested to know if they offered you to just do an incision or not? I have very mild phimosis but they only said I'd need an incision. I'm able to just stretch it out a bit beforehand and it's fine, though I do have EDS so that pawbably why I can.

[-] astreus@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 week ago

Mine wasn't mild, unfortunately. Fully pinhole. Luckily, I'm a "grower" so they didn't have to take the whole foreskin and the very base of my glands are still protected (and get stimulated from skin during sex). Stretches were actually counter productive for me (found that out after the skin condition got diagnosed) and likely led to a speeding up of the pinhole nature

[-] princessnorah 2 points 1 week ago

That's really interesting, thanks for sharing.

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