AITA for using the fact that I have a degenerative eye condition that will make me randomly go blind as a reason to ask my SO with body dysmprohic disorder to let me see them naked more often? (adultswim.fan)

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Yes, this is a real Am I The Asshole, not one where the answer is super obvious and the user is just looking to have their ego stroked.

My SO has BDD and genuinely thinks they look ugly naked. I think they're 1000% incorrect and that they're the sexiest human alive, and I would die happy if I could see them naked all the time.

I was diagnosed with a condition called Cone Rod Dystrophy which basically means I'll lose color vision, then all vision. The timeline is anywhere from next week to 50 years from now.

I want to see them naked every chance I can get so I can cement it in my head before I go blind, but I feel gross for posing that as a reason to let me see them naked.

Like, in the 10 years we've been together I've never even asked them for a hand job if they didn't feel up to sex because I didn't want to seem like a callous asshole, so this would be a big ask from me.

To add in complications, they're also on the spectrum. Not a criticism since I'm most likely on it too.

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[-] village604@adultswim.fan 10 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

Of course not, but when good communication is stifled by a field of eggshells, you do what you can.

Our communication on the subject is pretty good, but that alone doesn't solve the issue. It's hard to see a way to open that line of communication without them being offended

The hard part is communicating my needs without trampling on their feelings, because at a certain point the onus shifts off of me and I don't want my SO to have that pressure

[-] recklessengagement@lemmy.world 1 points 7 hours ago

This is the point at which you should begin looking for a couples therapist

[-] Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 4 points 15 hours ago

communicating [...] without trampling on their feelings

That's right. There are better things that can be done with feelings.

[-] village604@adultswim.fan 2 points 15 hours ago

Such as?

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