Sometimes, (amongst friends who accept how thoroughly weird I am) I will actually say "XOR" when I want to make my intentions clear. It means that when they give the silly OR answer, I can jokingly chastise them for poor listening. The downside is that they relish the opportunity to give OR answers when I am not sufficiently specific in my question. I reap what I sow ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Why not both?

Personally, people tend to ask me XOR questions where the answer actually is "both"

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