Because it reminds me of never ending wave of arguments from my friends, who did not asked me questions, but assumed what I think, but in reality they projected their own education an way of thinking (about anarchism) on me. And they didn't want to listen.

I encountered something like that in a context of presents you gift to other people. Inescapably, they hold your perception of who they are and what you think is a worthy present. We are all tired, imperfect and are not sharing the mind of other person, we have just clues in that situation, and whatever we gift is a reflection of ourselves in some way, but still, in the same context, we can compare gifts that are done with a research, a thought, a care about other side, to giving them an average pack of what Walmart sells as a birthday gift bag. This sounds too silly, but I found it a relateable example signifying the importance of hearing others and not yourself only. There's only so much effort you can put in some bd present, right, but at the same time, every little deviation out of an average course, personalizing such gift, is rewarding. And that care and communication is probably the base of a healthy society.