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Number of NZ couples getting married continues to fall
(www.1news.co.nz)
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People figured out thousands of years ago that marriage is good. There can be abusive marriages and the types of societies that encourage marriage also do not encourage interfering in bad marriages. In general though, most people are honest and have good intentions and are not trying to take advantage or abuse other people, so most marriages should work fine. At least in Christianity they offer the right to divorce for reasons such as adultery, but divorcing someone doesn't mean you can hop into bed and shag the next person. People need to get over biology and have real purpose. Acting on impulse and chemical feelings in the brain just doesn't lead to any good when the first marriage fails.
One man, one woman applies to Christianity but not to Islam. There are muslims who advocate for men to have multiple wives but only if they're rich, presumably. There is an Islamic sect (from India) that makes a philosophical argument for this. They also make a practical argument that after World War 2 the population would have recovered faster if men had multiple wives.
Infidelity is only rampant because people have Reddit levels of belief in decency. If people are shunned and shamed then they won't engage in that behaviour. Only a very few psychopaths or narcissists would test the rules. That's why they used to kill people for infidelity, it weeds out the psychos who are naturally impulsive and inclined towards evil.
Thousands of years ago marriage consisted of one man and multiple women. Mostly the women were bought from their fathers, they had no say in who they were going to marry. Also it was common to take the virgins of the people you conquered in wars as you wives or concubines or sex slaves. Marriage was good for the man, not so much for the women.
But they don't. As I said people just fall out of love.
I don't care what your god has to say though. I don't believe in your god and I am against forcing people to believe in your god and doing things your god commands you. You obey your god and as long as that doesn't involve other people I don't care.
They get to determine what their purpose in life is, not you.
Have you ever read the bible? It sounds like you never did. For example
2 Samuel 12:11-12
Here because David had sex with Batsheba God decides to punish him by having his wives raped. Later on his own son indeed rapes all of his wives on the roof in the view of the entire town.
Maybe they just don't believe in your god. Have you ever considered that?
Why should they be shamed or shunned for mutually consensual sex?
Depends. If you read the bible god did indeed order the stoning of women who commit infidelity but the men were never commanded to be killed. At worst they paid some money. If they raped a woman their punishment was to marry that woman so that they could continue to rape her legally for the rest of their lives.