"It's stupid, it's not a thing, it's men's own fault"

So as someone who recently learned my gender identity is demiguy, I can say it is and isn't a thing.

Masculinity as a whole is a toxic concept in my book. A man is stoic. A man is strong, capable, and will put up or shut up. A man is attractive if he looks strong, acts strong, drives strong trucks, enjoys strength based sports, is emotionally strong, and essentially a lifelong warrior. A man can do anything he needs to by himself. A man can change if he needs to. A man has rough hands. A man dresses prepared. A man does not have too much emotional intimacy. A man is vulnerable only to the extent that he doesn't appear weak.

All of those statements apply to the criticisms. It is stupid. Men aren't socializing with hardly anyone. It's hard to when you have to do the mentioned statements. It is a thing. Men do not have friends to call and shoot the shit with. Men are annoying when we text too much. Sharing real feelings is weakness. It is men's own fault. It's the nature of the characteristics of manliness.

The unfortunate side effect is that Incels have coopted it to defend their misogyny, and women who all have significant reason to be angry at this see it as terribly offensive.

To me? Yeah. I'm lonely. But it's mostly because I didn't understand who I was, and I didn't have groups to fit in with. I like wearing tailored suits, but I love having soft hands. I like lighter clothing, cuddling, playing silly games with children, lavender and vanilla scented candles and candle lit baths.

But men can't share any of that with each other even if they identify as men. Women are the only link to "softness" they experience. This leads to a compounding problem. Men need to accept that they will be alone unless they can connect on something OTHER than STRENGTH.