Question regarding my status in the queer community (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 years ago by Nimbletoes@sh.itjust.works to c/lgbtq_plus@sh.itjust.works

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Okay, I was assigned male at birth, but I have questions:

I mostly identified as non-binary/agender, but is it possible for me to also be genderfluid in that capacity? I have felt more fluid recently, but is that generally accepted?
Regardless of fluidity, do I fall into the LGBTQ+ community because of my identification, or am I excluded from it?
Is queer a socially acceptable term to use for those in the community, or does it carry the same weight it did when I was a kid in the late 90s?

I don't have anybody in my community I can discuss this with, which is why I came here. Hopefully you all can help give me a little guidance ✌️

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[-] im_me_but_better 1 points 2 days ago

See the Q and the + Yes, you belong and you don't need to pass a test or get a membership card. This means that particular groups may accept you or not according to their own bias.

And to add. You don't need permission from anybody to be what you feel. If sometimes you feel more masc some more agender, some more fem and some time in-between, you are by definition fluid. It doesn't matter how far down either side of the binary spectrum you fluctuate.

The term Queer has been reclaimed to lose its negative connotation.

I've never been gay and growing up I didn't even know term genderfluid. Still, I've always felt queer which was confusing as a child, teen. Feeling fem sometimes but not gay when culturally at the time femenine men = gay.

So, you go feel you are out of the gender binary, queer is the broad term, non-binary narrows it, and genderfluid narrows it even more.

this post was submitted on 22 Nov 2023

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