lots of online games are just outright badly designed, like having loads of abilities that literally just freeze you in place so you don't get to play for a few seconds.

i was into overwatch when it was still an actual game and not a storefront, and my god there was sooooo much stuff that was obviously not acceptable for a game of that size and budget. I think the most egregious was roadhog's hook that just didn't care about time and physics, you could be grabbed behind walls and whatnot and of course that resulted in instant death too, because WHY NOT!

then you compare this to something like deep rock galactic, where it's cooperative and "balance" is the player deciding how much of a challenge they want, and the devs specifically added a feature that lets you shout "rock and stone!" to build camraderie. You play that game and it's just.. fun? it's just fun, it's almost never frustrating at all, even if you get your ass kicked you just fucking try again and maybe lower the difficulty because you're not quite good enough to take on that size of horde yet.

And stun abilities? you can have tons of them, because the enemies are NPCs and thus don't care, and the enemies only have a select few stun abilities that can either be actively broken out of or teammates can help you out of them, plus you're given so much warning that getting stunned is very clearly your own fault.

Offline games are mostly chill

But online games, even though people play it for fun but after sometime it gets too frustrating when you don't get the kills

That's why I left playing online shooting games, those made me more angry

It’s the same as parents going full tilt against the ref of a kids league soccer match.

Personally speaking, I think it's addiction to the game. I played the game Enlisted for a few years and became a veteran player. It irritated me so much when I got inexperienced players on my team and I was carrying. I insulted my team mates in the chat a fair few times out of frustration. It just wasn't enjoyable at all, yet I kept booting the game up every day.

Competitive online games really affect my mood, they make me so angry and I can't help it. It's unhealthy when a video game is actually ruining your day.

I just stick to singleplayer games now.

Gamers aren't well adjusted people

'Fun' and 'chill' are not the same concept. Fun things can be irritating, can make you excited and go through various emotions.

Yes. But fun is relative. When I play rocket league, I like to try my hardest. If I'm not trying hard, it's not as exiting. So it's frustrating when playing ranked and for example your teammate is not even trying . Maybe RL isn't the best example because matches are under 10 minutes, so I can just start another one, but games where you spend an hour, it's just different

Sports.

Back when I still played ranked in online games, I always felt like if I didn't have Don't Stop Me Now by Queen playing in the back of my head... I just wasn't in the right mood to play.