I don't begrudge it.

As a cis white male my upbringing has helped me understand the plight of trans people. I was told I was something that I wasn't, and any mere mention that I might not be what they'd decided I should be, would result in conversations about what's wrong with me, and visits with elders who would help me pray the sin away, how to spot the devil at work, all that stuff.

Whilst what trans people go through is far more severe; it was a slight yet valuable insight for my otherwise privileged existence as to what oppression looks and feels like.

So if I had to miss out on a few Christmas' and birthdays to avoid ending up the other side a lot of cis whites tend to end up (which seems to be straight up fascism for some fucking reason), then I'm happy to have gone through it.