I've experienced physical violence at the hands of 2 of my 3 long term partners. I swear some women think that if you're a fairly big man, it's fair game to hurt you. In reality my pain tolerance is average or below. I can take a hit, but holy hell does a near full force bite hurt.

Neither was an isolated incident either. Both were repeat offenders. Both claim I was violent when I've never done more than just block attacks. I'm not a violent person, I spent time at the gym bulking up to avoid fights in the first place, being a former bullying victim. My last ex knew all about my trauma, but got mad as shit when I accidentally hurt her wrist blocking an attack from her exactly one time. This after I had told her multiple times that if she kept trying, my self defense reflex might kick in at some point. Every time I told her to please be less violent, she brought that one time up and said I'm worse than her.