I just finished reading the article, and I absolutely remember not wanting my toddler to "help" with chores because I knew I would have to follow behind him to "re-do" them and it would take twice as long.

But a few years in, I was able to let those feelings go and was able to give my child space to learn. With more practice it gets easier, and now I have a 12 year old who cleans up after himself relatively easily. He's in charge of his own bathroom even. I phrased cleaning up after ourselves as personal responsibility, because thats what it is.

I feel bad for not letting him help as a toddler and wish I approached it differently then, if only to help his self esteem. Yet I am glad by the time he was 7/8 I could give up that control and give him space to learn. Better late than never! Now if only I could get him to stop holding the broom like a hockey stick lol

It's really nice to see your parenting efforts pay off with the kids learning self reliance and responsibility.