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this post was submitted on 19 Jul 2025
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This was an appalling thing for them to say, let alone for you to try to fathom. No one deserves to be SA'd, so how can there be a metric for being "good enough" for it?
On that line of thinking though, I have to wonder if this statement is some kind of weird projection or coping mechanism. Maybe this person experienced SA and was working through very complex emotions resulting in a warped rationalization that they were "good enough" to be victimized in that way. A twisted attempt at recapturing the power they may have lost with misplaced "pride" in someone wanting to SA them.
I don't know though, definitely conjecture on my part, but regardless of how they came upon these beliefs, they had no right to project that onto you. Good to hear they're an ex-friend.