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What was the biggest pill you've had to swallow about your own self or habits? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 day ago by NomenCumLitteris@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I'll go first...after 10 years of speculating in the market (read: gambling in high risk assets) I realized I shouldn't ever touch a brokerage account in my lifetime. A monkey would have made better choices than I did. Greed has altered the course of life many times over. I am at an age where I may recover from my actions over the decades, but it has taken its toll. I am frugal and have a good head on me, but having such impulsivity in financial instruments was not how I envisioned my adulthood. Its a bitter pill to swallow, since money is livelihood of my family, but I need to "invest" all I have into relationships, meaningful moments, and fulfilling hobbies.

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[-] qwestjest78@lemmy.ca 35 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I had this recently. My parents wanted me to make a full hour round trip drive across town to pick them up in the middle of the night so they could save $50 on a taxi. I said no as I have kids to look after now, and my mom launched into how I'm not family first anymore and after all the things she did for me as a kid, she can't depend on me to pick her up.

I stuck to my guns though. They conned my brother with the same story, but I set a boundary.

[-] loaf@sh.itjust.works 19 points 1 day ago

Wow, the “family first” remark, while you’re taking care of your kids, gets me. That’s so familiar.

It’s as if people hearing “no” from you, when you would normally just cave in and do whatever was requested, is an act of aggression from people. It’s strange… they become so hateful.

Good on you for sticking with your boundaries!

[-] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 10 points 1 day ago

Agree with the other commenter. If she ever pulls that line with you again make sure you throw it right back at her. "You're right, family first. That's my kids and my spouse." Maybe she'll start to realize the family shifts as you age.

this post was submitted on 15 May 2025

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