I think we just have very different morals and views. What you consider "free" I consider a disrespectful and toxic place.

No, I wasn't talking about that at all.
I was saying that bcs we have different morals there can't be a singular monolithic dictatorship about it.

Megacorp social media isn't the sum of all it's users, it's whatever pays more.

And with fediverse you gain the power of choice & fairness.

If you want to join a toxic cesspool instance, then so be it, if you want you can be in an instance that blocks that, or in a third altogether instance.
(There are also filters that have a bit of growing to do tho.)

But most importantly, if your instance is "toxic" (as you made an example) you can change it & still use the same service/software. With Twatter & BlueSky you are persuaded to adjust your morals to fit the norm or lose the service.

I don't agree Revolt is a good example of Mastodon type social media, it's not for that.

But I def agree fediverse is still technically growing & needs smart filters, filter groups, etc. Basically your own simple way too sub-defederate from stuff you don't like.