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I've been more active in online spaces recently and I am just astounded at the number of times I'll be several comments deep with another person and a man will just jump in responding to us both with the least relevant most inflammatory take. The gender of the person I'm talking to is never relevant, but it's always a guy that interjects. I know the internet is a public forum, and I guess there's more guys on some platforms than women, but it's just shocking how often it has happened. We'll be talking about baking and some guy will come in and say that it actually costs more to bake bread at home or clothes and some guy will come in to say actually both our styles are bad. It's not even a sexist thing I don't think, I just think women are socialized more with a live and let live mentality and men are socialized to believe that everyone should hear their opinion. I don't really have any solutions. I always want to reply with something snarky about how we're not asking him or how his comment doesn't need to be shared, but I don't want to invite harassment. Their comments get upvotes or reacts in agreement and it just feels targeted. Like two people were having a casual chat and this guy comes in and derails and gets positive attention for it. I'm just venting now because it just happened in a gaming discord and I don't really have people irl who understand how these communities are helpful and how that kind of community reaction is ostracizing.

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[-] HalfSalesman@lemm.ee 5 points 4 days ago

I am an autistic man (kinda) asking questions: Would you consider it more excusable if it was a hot button political issue?

It sounds like you are getting guys inserting aggressive opinions about stuff that's ultimately way more subjective and taste related and not worth getting pushy or elitist about. Which is annoying to me as a guy who tends to like things more than dislike things.

Like Eww you Like 'Z'? Don't you know that 'X' is better you pleb. type stuff.

But with politics... and philosophy... I'll fully admit my chill is gone in those domains. They are very very important to me.

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 17 points 4 days ago

Hi @HalfSalesman@lemm.ee thanks for your input! We're women only, so men aren't allowed to comment.

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