I think that unfortunately no amount of tweaking the sidebar or rules will help. People who come here and don't realise the rules are probably jumping straight into individual threads from c/all and reacting without ever even visiting the front page of this community. You would hope that the fact the community is literally called "Women's Stuff" would be enough to make these people reconsider jumping in to attack but here we are. I have a feeling that this is what every women-centric community has had to face on this platform so far.

Personally, it's something that makes me still feel hesitant about chipping in with anything here, even though you've said non-binary people are welcome. Because there's already enough people invading here and warping the purpose of this community, and it's still early days with not enough activity from women yet as it is.

You've got something good going here though. And something that Lemmy needs. So I hope that you keep fighting off the riff raff and building this place up. Even just as a lurker, thank you for this space where I can read some good conversations with healthy insights (and pick up tips on dealing with sunscreen woes lol). It is highly appreciated.

I personally have experience moderating a community designed for one specific group of people. My advice is use heavy handed moderation, some people may call you a tyrant or a mod abuser but thats whats needed to keep a community like this clean from those who would rather speak over the memebers.