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How to tell the difference between being burnt out and just being lazy? (lemmy.ml)

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I work a rather demanding job and I've constantly been feeling tired and underperformant compared to my colleagues for the past few months. I keep evading responsibilities or putting them off until the last minute.

Many people would kill to be where I am. Yet, I show up every day unmotivated.

There were several stressful years leading up to my current job and I'm wondering if I'm burnt out at this point or if I'm just not pulling my weight.

Edit: Thank you all for your support and guidance. I haven't given too many details here, but personal life has been moving along smoothly, chores get done, etc. But I definitely need to reconsider where I'm going with my job.

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[-] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 42 points 1 month ago

I think "selfish" is a better word for it in all instances, because some people are just selfish. Like, if you can't be bothered to return your shopping cart or pick up your dog's shit, then that's selfish. It's not anywhere near the same category as being too burnt out to do the dishes after a double shift, or wanting to sleep in on a day off.

Calling all of it "lazy" creates some imaginary obligation to the universe that simply does not exist. You don't owe the universe clean dishes or your time in the morning. If you have roommates and you left dishes in the sink, you are being selfish. If your kids have an early baseball game, and you are too hungover to show up, then you're being selfish. You are always obliged to return your cart and pick up after your dog.

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