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Do you interpret a ๐ as a rude reply?
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It depends on what it's in response to.
Entirely reasonable.
Entirely unreasonable, but not rude.
Rude.
This is absolutely spot on. Well done.
I guess I just picture a chat as a textual representation of a conversation and if I said to you, want to get dinner at 6, and you replied ๐ in real life, I would cancel the dinner lmao
I see where you're coming from now. In most English-speaking cultures, it is not conventional to use hand gestures as a substitute for spoken words in a conversation. Breaking social conventions for no apparent reason is at least potentially rude.
You're translating those conventions directly to chat. Chat is not spoken word, and it is conventional to use emojis, at least the really unambiguous ones, instead of typed words in chat some of the time. People do not usually do this with any rude or insulting intent.
I appreciate the level headed reply in the sea of insanity I have started with this thread.
Honestly, I don't interpret it as something malicious ever either, like I don't think everyone is actually telling me to fuck myself, it just reads that way to me.
You saying youโd straight up cancel a dinner because someone gave you a thumbs up instead of a verbal response genuinely blew my mind lmao. Ngl fam, thatโs a bit extreme. I give people the thumbs up all the time, and imagining someone becoming so upset at me for doing it that theyโd cancel our dinner together is insane to me. I couldnโt be friends with such a person without feeling like I was constantly walking on eggshells.
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It was an exageration my guy, as with all my reactions to the ๐ in this thread. It does not make me truly angry, I'm being a bit silly because it's fun.
So I wasn't sure if you were an asshole, but based on this comment, I'm am not certain you are.
I say this because it's fun for me and I've been taught to speak at my audience's level.
Maybe try not habitually exaggerating? People who don't know you are just gonna take you at your word.
I do not think the majority of people would agree that chat is a textual representation of a conversation. Itโs its own thing and this is evident by slang, leetcode, emoticons, emoji, and euphemisms (๐๐ฆ). How people talk over text is completely different than how they speak in real life, especially when theyโre typing fast.
If you are mid drinking or chewing and somebody asks you a question, a thumbs up is perfectly acceptable as a yes. Otherwise its a bit odd, but not offensive. Its like a +1 affirmation
You're weird.
Yes, and weird is fun
You and I are very different then. If I tell someone that dinner is at 6 and they give me a thumbs up, I would interpret that as "I acknowledge that I heard you and have no objections. It is not worth taking my attention off of whatever I am doing."
It's probably one of the auto responses on their side when the text alert pops up. Maybe they were driving or I. The middle of something and it was just easier for them to respond this way.
It's pretty clear the issue here is you. Specifically, your reaction. The solution to than can only come from you. The world will not bend to you and the world is not responsible for making you feel certain things, that's all you.
This is the best answer. Also, even in some serious case the thumbs up is interpreted as "noted, all good". It does not mean positive action, just saying "noted".