Weight loss is all about “calories burned > calories in”; so in the simplest terms, you need to find a Way of Eating (WOE) that makes a caloric deficit bearable.

For me, that was keto. I managed to drop from 120kg to 78kg over the course of a year and a half.

My suggestion is to try a bunch of different diets/ways of eating (keto, paleo, vegetarian, pescitarian, vegan, Mediterranean, carnivore, Atkins and/or intermittent fasting) and see which one clicks.

Another really important point is to track your caloric intake, at least at the start - to build up the knowledge required to make better food choices.

The last bit of advice is probably toxic, but it did work for me - so you can consider whether it’s suitable for you too: “nothing tastes as good as skinny feels.”

P.S. r/FatPeopleHate was one of my sources of (albeit negative) motivation; so I guess self-loathing helps too! 😅