I gotta add in some support to this.

I specifically said that using individual pronouns was more trouble than it's worth to me, and was not banned.

I even questioned the role of neopronouns, what impact they have, and expressed my opinions that disagree with some aspects of it (which changed, btw), and was not banned.

And, I specifically rarely used their (drag's) neopronouns during any interactions on the instance and was never banned.

Considering I'm a known asshole, and I'm confident that some of my comments got reported because people said they would/did, I never got banned from the instance, and afaik not from any communities, though I'd have to check the mod log to be certain of that part.

Regardless of whether or not anyone agrees with the policies regarding neopronouns, the admins have a pretty damn good track record of enforcing them evenly. Yeah, that's partly because they didn't ban me, but if my pissy, contrarian ass didn't get banned, it certainly points to them paying attention to nuance in their decisions.

Also, as a tangent to all of that, I know trans people irl that depend on blahaj lemmy as their place of support and community. If making a place where people can have that did mean being heavy handed, even if it meant I got banned, I'm okay with that. We need a place like that. Now more than ever.