better to make 3mil+

This seems to be the logic stumble in the anti-natalist brain. "If I just don't have kids, then I'll be rich one day!"

At some level, you need to dismiss the fantasy of being rich in the future and think about being happy in the moment.

I spent five years fostering before we finally landed a permanent placement. I've had the pleasure of hosting kids from age 0 to 4. And I'll say that the work of taking care of another person is so much more fulfilling than bullshit office work or some shitty service sector job.

I go to bed early and tired but satisfied, rather than staying up late and dreading the next day. I'm not counting the hours to a retirement 20 years from now. I'm focused on my son's first words and steps.

Just like with dating or caring for a pet or visiting family abroad, the value isn't bound by the money I'm spending. It's about bonding with others and continuing a relationship I can only measure in hours together.