Sometimes it's not even about denial of what happened, but rather a mindset that the past doesn't affect the present anymore.

I often-enough hear people saying things along the line of, well, past generations took the land but society is better and less racist now, we collectively apologised, and my family weren't even here at the time, so we have no obligation to do anything now. Almost like if my dad stole your car ten years ago, died after, and I say well I've never stolen anything in my life, it was my dad's car, this car is mine, stop complaining about the past. It doesn't make sense to start acting like equal treatment is fair after so much is stolen and so little is given back. But I know people who believe morality is that own individual behaviour, whether they are doing hurtful acts, and disregard their own position in society, how they got there and who suffered to allow that to happen.

Guilt isn't what people are asking for, guilt actually doesn't do anything useful, but rather we need people to realise that it doesn't matter that we personally didn't commit massacres and seize land, because the consequences of those acts still disadvantage current generations of the victims, and it's not resolved if we dismiss the consequences as someone else's sins.

"here's 3 simple things we should be working on".

Three things to work on would be truth, treaty and voice? Those aren't simple though.

I think the nation accepting the voice would have been a step towards reconciliation, since it would have been a sign showing the nation accepts wrongs that exist in its history.