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Do you have kids? Do you want to have kids? Did you regret having / not having kids? (lemmy.world)

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I am of the age to have kids, some of my friends have them, but I have mixed feelings about it, just wondering about other people's experiences.

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[-] PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca 11 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I have no idea why why any woman would want to get pregnant. It looks like an absolute terrible experience all around, and that's not even accounting for the safety risks and the long term health reprocustions.

[-] Ibuthyr@lemmy.wtf 1 points 1 day ago

My wife hated being pregnant. It was the worst time in her life. But once the baby was there, hormones kicked in and all that pregnancy shit was instantly forgotten. Crazy how that works. She would never recommend pregnancy to anyone ever. She also hates how pregnancy is over-romanticized.

But she does recommend kids if you're willing to commit a large portion of your adult life to be centered around the kid. If helps to live in a country where parents get many benefits like up to 3 years of parental leave, additional vacation days etc. We, as the parents, are having the best time of our lives. It was a difficult decision back then, and it took me until I turned 33 to finally decide to have a kid.

[-] ChexMax@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

Some women say they enjoy it which I cannot really fathom. I did not care for it. As for why the woman would want to get pregnant though.. I mean that's about having a kid, not about being pregnant, isn't it?

And also not to be crass, but haven't you ever had sex that's so good in that moment you and your body genuinely want to get pregnant?

[-] PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 day ago

Let me rephrase, then:

I'm surprised that any woman would want something enough that they'd be willing to endure pregnancy.

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