Edit I'm just gonna delete this soon. I posted it and made most of my comments while angry and looking for blood. yea a lot of cringe stuff got said on that post but I don't think my post is contributing anything to the sub other than anger, and possibly driving people away. Sorry to the people I snapped at, I hope yall have a good night🐕
The comments are full of people saying transphobic shit and op doubling down on his "making your trans partner feel dysphoric is fine" shit. He'll that pic was a re-upload from one of the mods here. What the fuck!!!! This is fucking 196 why are we out here defending blatant transphobia? People are in there calling trans people karens with a persecution complex, there's tons of defense of treating trans men like shit, "allies" telling trans people they're overreacting, all kinds of inexcusable shit. If this is how lemmy 196 is gonna be I hope this place crashes and burns
I'm on mobile and busy rn so I can't do that, I'll just copy and paste my comment here and come back later
Good question, why don't you try answering it rather than continuing to shit on the people you call yourself an ally to? If the answer is "I wouldn't date a non-op trans man" then just fucking say that instead of insinuating that you would date them and treat them like shit
Alright so, having read only the image OP posted and this comment here, I don't really think you're being transphobic at all, only expressing your sexual preferences, which is fine. No one should feel pressured or forced to "like" something they don't, specially in this context.
I get why people might get a bit nervous about the specific words you used, and maybe I didn't get to read something that might be deleted but...
I think you're ok.
"They would be straying away from what I personally find attractive, and the fact they could be uncomfortable with what I'd be attracted to would be something hard to deal with for both parties involved" is what I understood you meant.
This is why we're saying it's transphobic. It doesn't sound like you view pre-op trans men as men. You're attracted to women, and that's fine, but trans men aren't women.
They consistently refer to trans men with masculine pronouns. You're not going to get that out of people who don't actually believe it.