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What is a human behaviour you've never understood?
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It's not just the third one. A non-marginal minority of people will be hurt by valid criticism even if it meant to to help them (I'm saying this as a third party observer. This isn't me telling someone "Hey, you're an idiot. Whoa, why are you acting offended? I'm just trying to help you be less of an idiot! Wow, some people can't take constructive criticism").
I know I'm at the low end of caring what people think about me, and that other people will get offended by some things. That's fine, not saying they're wrong to feel one way or another. I just can't empathize or model the mechanism that makes them feel that way.
That's true, I was oversimplifying by focusing on the third but the same applies whether remarks are intended to hurt, be neutral, or explicitly to help - point is people often assume it's the first or respond as if it is. Some people can shrug it off but I can't.