According to the psych the only things that line up well with ASD are my masking symptoms which are indistinguishable from ADHD masking. Well and my generalized anxiety.

The big commonly talked about things- black and white thinking, narrow interests, behavior camouflaging, ignorance of social cues, or flat affect are absent.

Though interestingly my exwife has all of that, and it didn't occur to me until after we moved apart. She was hot, I was young, young men tend to ignore obvious problems until it's way too late.