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[-] Flatworm7591@lemmy.dbzer0.com 28 points 3 days ago

Now that everyone has had a chance to argue all day about this, I'm gonna lock this post so you can go touch grass.

I agree that Drag is a massive troll and that user has been banned from many instances over the past few months, including this one.

Maybe try leaving it up to the folks at blajah to decide what they want to be called and maybe just play along with it, even if you find it weird. "Normal" is so fucking boring anyway. If you really can't cope with occasionally coming across an unusual pronoun and being asked to simply accept it without having a meltdown, you probably don't belong on blajah anyway. Just move on.

The "gatekeeping" bans seem like a BPR to me given the context in which it was posted. Having said that, I don't entirely understand the rationale for blajah's rule, since the effect seems to be that you either need to be 100% behind fantasy neo-pronouns and identities (including drag? dragonfucker??) or cop a ban, but if that's how they want things then that's up to them. Not every space is for everyone, and diversity of communities and instances is mostly a good thing.

As far as our instance (dbzer0) goes, malicious/intentional misgendering of users is not permitted, similar to blajah. However, like others in this thread have argued, I agree that someone who literally identifies as a dragon fucker does not deserve to be taken seriously about anything, and it's entirely reasonable to simply assume the choice of pronouns is just another form of trolling. The context and drag's extensive mod history (along with previous alts) are important factors here too.

It's also concerning to me that people are being attacked and reported for being "bigots" or "anti-trans" in the comments just because they have hesitations over what are effectively contentious edge cases involving neo-pronouns and an infamous troll. I know for a fact that many of the commenters in this thread are very supportive of trans people, trans rights and respecting a person's chosen gender pronouns. They just have a problem with this particular dragon-fucker, not because Drag is trans, but because Drag is a narcissistic troll and a community wrecker who thrives on all the drama.

I'm leaving the comments intact for the record, but will add a CW below:

CW: possible misgendering in comments below, at least if you agree dragon fucker is a gender

[-] db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Just to add to this. We don't have problems with people identifying with fantasy races. Go be weird and whatnot. But there's a line between what you identify as and with rubbing your kink in everyone's faces constantly. So just to be clear out stance is not pro-disputing anyone's identity and not respecting third-party person neopronouns. It about disputing whether your gender is being challenged because someone said "you".

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